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看好文|理净师父:你的决定从一开始就输了

你的人生,可能在第一个选择时就已经输了。我毕业后,最常被问的一个问题是:“你接下来要做什么?”

 我没有一个明确答案,但我很清楚自己“不要什么”——不要被固定工时绑住,不要失去对时间的自主权。我一直用“剔除法”去在做决定。因为,decide 这个词本身就意味着“切除”。决定,不是加法,而是减法。不是你选择了什么,而是你愿意放弃什么。但大数人都在用加法作决定。

 我六姐是一个例子。她SPM成绩优异,唯独马来文意外失手。当时她没有选择补考,而是直接去拉曼读会计,后来还顺利进入大公司当审计员。那本是一条“复利型”的道路——她的专业能力、信用与资历,会随时间累积。但她很快就放弃了,因为起薪太低,她去当了补习老师,还开了补习中心,收入更快、更直接。

 7年后,她偶然去兼职房产中介。讽刺的是周末去谈几十万的公寓交易,回到补习中心却要和50元月费的家长纠缠。




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